Introduction to the Blessing Ceremony
New Realms of God's Presence
Through the Blessing given by the Reverend and Mrs. Sun Myung Moon, God
is opening up new realms of His presence in the world.
God's true love can enter into every family in the love children have for
their parents, the love of brothers and sisters, the conjugal love shared
by husband and wife, and the love parents have for their children. These
are the four great realms of heart.
God's power can enter through the love of grandparents, the love of parents,
and the love of children, with a dignity the Bible attributes to true kings
and queens. The "realm of the royal family" means that we all
become relatives in one great family of humankind. Everyone in the human
family has the dignity and grace of kings and queens, princes and princesses.
This is eternal true love within the family. Through the Blessing we renounce
the false love which has polluted the human family throughout history, and
commit together with God to building a world of true love. Based upon this
commitment to God on your part, your marriage is an eternal marriage, as
real in the spirit world as on earth. This is solemnized through four vows,
through which you affirm that you will become:
--a true man or woman who practices sexual purity and life for
the sake of others;
--a true husband or wife who respects True Parents' example and establishes
an eternal family which brings joy to God;
--a parent who rears your children to follow the tradition of true love
for the sake of the family and world; and
--an ideal family which contributes to
Explanation of the Blessing
The Blessing has five steps, each with its own purpose and significance.
It is important to understand and appreciate the value of each.
The Chastening Ceremony creates the foundation to cleanse the historical
sin between men and women. In man-women relations, to one degree or another,
we have all erred. So have our ancestors. In this ceremony, the husband
and wife chasten each other three times from a position representing God.
This simple act opens the door to God's forgiveness and grace. At the same
time it is an occasion for the couple's mutual chastening and forgiveness.
This allows us to begin a new life of pure love.
Repentance and Forgiveness: The Chastening Ceremony
God created man and woman to become true husbands and wives and to create
ideal families through unselfish love. As we know from the biblical record,
however, something went wrong in the beginning. The first parents created
a dysfunctional, fallen family, in which disunity between parents and children,
and intense sibling rivalry, led to murder. Such a family was clearly separated
from God's love, life and lineage. We all are descended from the false parents
of that family.
Grace for the Blessing: The Holy Wine Ceremony
In the Holy Wine Ceremony, we make the spiritual transition from the lineage
of false parents to that of the True Parents. Through this ceremony, we
each are restored conditionally to the position of "original man"
and "original woman," like Adam and Eve before the Fall.
In the ceremony, the officiator gives the Holy Wine to the woman. She bows
to him and drinks half of it. She then gives the Holy Wine to her husband
who bows to her and drinks the remainder. He bows and gives the empty cup
to his wife who bows and returns it to the officiator.
The Spiritual Blessing of Marriage:
The Holy Blessing is a simple and beautiful event. For betrothed couples,
it is their wedding ceremony. For previously married couples it is a ceremony
of re-dedication of their marriage and family to God.
The Holy Blessing Ceremony
The ceremony includes several traditional elements. One is a sprinkling
of Holy Water. This represents the rebirth or renewal of the husband and
wife together as a Blessed couple. Then there is a recitation of vows. Here
the couples pledge to consummate the ideal of the creation of God as an
eternal husband and wife, to rear their children to live up to the Will
of God, and to love the people of the world as God does. Finally, the bride
and groom exchange rings and the officiator offers a prayer and proclaims
the participants husband and wife standing within the realm of God's original
and eternal Blessing.
Thanksgiving: The Separation Period
The forty days following the Blessing is an historical time period for each
couple. Just as Jesus began his mission on the foundation of forty days
of fasting, couples who have received the Blessing are enjoined to offer
a period of sexual abstinence for a period of forty days after the Blessing.
Many couples have discovered from experience that the Separation Period
can be a significant step in the process of transformation and renewal.
Sexual abstinence is an honored religious tradition. On the spiritual level,
problems are often worked out during the Separation Period. Moreover, the
act of love itself takes on a new dimension of sacredness after offering
the period of separation.
After the separation period, the couple together carry out the Three-Day
Ceremony. This is the completion of sanctification, in which the couple
is restored to the position of true husband and wife. Over a three-day period,
the wife gives rebirth to her husband from the position of mother and then
receives him in the position of wife. Then in the position of father, the
husband gives rebirth to his wife and receives her in the position of husband.
Through this process, God breathes into the couple a new conjugal life.
Consummation of the Blessing:
The Three-Day Ceremony
After the Blessing:
The Blessing is not a quick-fix or cure-all. It is, for most participants,
a profound experience of the living God and a profound new spiritual bond
between husband and wife. Many experience God's presence for days, weeks
and even months. But the bliss eventually subsides and the work of perfecting
marriage continues. The difference after the Blessing is that, as a couple,
you are working upon a greater spiritual foundation for marriage and family
Building a Harmonious World Community
You have also shared a very special experience with other couples in your
home community and around the world. If the building blocks of community
are shared experience, shared values and shared vision, this Blessing and
the global relatedness it engenders contribute in a vital way to the emergence
of a world embodying the ideals of true love and peace. The continued expansion
of this community offers hope and vitality for the global human family in
the new millennium.
The Blessing is open to people of all races, nations and religions. For
married couples, it simply requires understanding and affirming the Blessing
vows. For betrothed couples and singles, virginity is required. For those
who are not virgins, sexual abstinence is required from the time of Blessing
application until the Blessing. Qualified singles may apply for Reverend
and Mrs. Moon's selection of future spouse. Others may make arrangements
for betrothal through their own families or religious communities. Participants,
through their local churches are encouraged to make an offering in gratitude.
How to Receive the Blessing
Does affirming the Blessing vows mean you become a member of the Unification
Church? That is up to each couple and family to decide. The Blessing is
a universal experience for those of all races, nations and religions and
for all people of good conscience. It does not automatically make you a
member of the Unification Church, nor is membership a prerequisite.
But a world community is exactly that­p;a community. The community of
Blessed couples is growing together as the Family Federation for Unification
and World Peace. It is a non-sectarian organization founded in 1994 for
those who are contemplating the Blessing and those who have received it.
The Reverend and Mrs. Moon officiated a global Blessing of 360,000 Couples
in 1995. They soon will officiate an even larger Blessing, to be broadcast
throughout the world by satellite. It will be the "I Do!" heard
'round the world. Those who are considering participation are encouraged
to further prayer and study.
For Further Study: Blessing of Love
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